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Her Thoughts
XOXO, random ramblings and letters to the reader.
You Have The Right To Be Different
People talk about flowers and their seasons in relation to a woman’s life. Every decision a young woman makes is too often accompanied by the following reminder: “Remember you are a girl and you will soon wither. You can forgo these other things for now…” “This is not the time for you to be furthering your education. Why don’t you settle down first then you can talk about educa
Womanhood Is Not A Curse
The other day I was a guest on Zimbabwe’s National Broadcasting Channel to talk about my book that I recently published. I asked to receive the interview questions in advance so I could prepare, but for some reason the host of the show was not forthcoming and I decided to just let it go. Little did I know I was walking into what I call "an ambush of the feminine pride". The fir
So, You're Awkward? Perfect!
Many centuries ago, all the animals lived in harmony in the animal kingdom. It was a perfect world where lions and zebras trotted along side by side. This world knew neither predator nor prey because all the animals grazed on grass provided for by their caretaker. The agreement was that the animals would be well taken care of as long as they lived peacefully amongst themselves;
Dear Trouble, I'm Ready...
I am not amused. For years I've kept my composure and refrained from addressing you directly. In fact, I've been afraid of you most of my life.
Dear Tomorrow...
You and I have spent a lot of quality time trying to get to know each other. I’ve spent numerous hours thinking about you. In my dreams, I've imagined what you look like and what you have to offer me. I’ve always pictured you and I riding off into the sunset and living happily ever after. Ah, but thoughts of you have also caused me great distress - tossing and turning during th
Dear "I'm-Not-Good-Enough"...
It’s sad how suddenly all your confidence was stripped from you and you were left naked in shame and insecurities. Before you met him, you were your own fan and nothing was strong enough to pull you down, which is why this turnaround is so puzzling. The day you met him, you lost yourself and everything became all about him. Is that what love is truly about?
Sometimes the Simplest Question is the Hardest to Answer
To Me, With Love
As I stand here and stare at the reflection in the mirror, I realize my victim is no stranger - we share the same heartbeat. Though I’ve known you since birth, I confess that I haven’t always been good to you. I've neglected my responsibility to always treasure you, and now it’s time to make amends. Often times, I’ve put you down and judged you harshly. On many occasions, I tho
Dear Mirror,
A complicated relationship you and I have had over the years. As a baby, I marveled at you because you loved to play games with me. What a tease you were. You showed me someone who looked and acted just like me - she did everything I did! When I laughed she laughed, too. But I could never touch her. Your little games were cute back then but I’m not laughing any more. You like t
Dear Depressed Woman...
You are in a dark place that feels overwhelming. You hope that tomorrow might be different, but nothing seems to change. Every day that passes by has the same monotony as the day before. Every so often, you see glimmers of light through a sunny day, a laughing child, a great concert, an adoring pet, the smell of flowers, and all other little life pleasures. And these moments ma